I am at the exciting stage in life where most of my friends are engaged, married, or thinking about getting married. Wedding talk is common in my life lately so it got me thinking about wedding vows. I decided that I will never include the line "Till Death Do Us Part" in my vows. First of all, how creepy does that sound?? Certainly not the beautiful words meant for a wedding ceremony. Second, this sets us up for failure. When you promise to be together "till death do us part" you are mutually agreeing that no matter what happens you will stay together. This almost gives your partner the "ok" to let themselves go and give up on romancing you. I think we should say "Until we are no longer happy". That should be our agreement to eachother. "I promise to stay with you as long as we are both happy", because at the end of the day, that is why you started dating them in the first place. When you are no longer happy with your spouse and no longer able to make them happy why stay together until death just because a wedding vow stated that? That puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on your relationship. I think life is more fulfilling and satisfying when we spend it trying to make our spouse happy and love life, instead of just trying to stay together.
With that said, take some time today to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife or even just your best friend that you love them and appreciate everything they do. Ask them what you can do to make them happier and in return they will offer the same. Lets make our goal in life to share as much happiness as we can and help make the ones we love genuinely happy.
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